The past weekend has been filled with too many negatives, no matter what the truth is, at least for us to sound the alarm of "improving the child's self-defense awareness." It is time to talk to the children about the embarrassing problems that have been perfunctored by us.
But when I got to the lips, the word "chicken" was swallowed back by me.
I want to open a certain topic before I need to find a gesture that is easy for the child to accept and comfortable and natural.
I remember a few years ago, my five-year-old daughter once asked me: "Mom, why are you bulging on your chest, I don't drum ? ". I tried to tell myself in a normal and calm tone that talked about my nose, mouth, and eyes. "Because you are not a mother, the newborn baby needs to drink the mother's milk, and the mother's breasts are bulging." "Is it ? Is there milk in your breasts ? " "Oh, my mother's milk is not milk, and it seems that it should be gone now." "So, why is it still bulging ? "...
I tragically found that I was surrounded by my own answer into an infinite loop of questions.
And when I think about it, my answer doesn't necessarily stand the scientific scrutiny. Although I have reserved some great principles on how to answer such embarrassing questions, when the problem really lies in front of me, I obviously have not been able to cope with it as I expected.
I think I need an intermediate medium, a small buffer, you can lend to me, instead of answering my child's question of letting me black lines, so that I don't have to face the little guys on the opposite side.
This feeling, once again surrounded me. Yes, I have relied on these “reliable helpers†over the years to help me and my children build a bridge of communication problems. Let me not be too embarrassed in communication, but also let children understand and learn in a more natural way.
"In a simple inventory, when talking to children about topics,
I wish you a helping hand. "
"å°å¨ forward": Where do I come from?
The saying "from the garbage dump" was blackened, and the answer from "the mother's belly" could not satisfy the appetite of the little boy, facing the question "How did I get into my mother's stomach?" It is time to go to "å°å¨". Who is Serena? Serena is a small sperm. In the running competition, it successfully surpassed other small sperm and won the first place. The first prize is a big egg... What happens after that? I won't be spoiled first! The most interesting part of this book is that the beginning and end of the echoes subtly incorporate the little knowledge of genetics, let the children understand the formation of life, but also know that everyone is born with their own advantages and Limitations.
"The Story of the Breast" & "The Story of the Chicken":
I am different from my mom and dad.
Children around the age of 3 have observed differences in the structure of women and men. Sometimes I wonder why I am different from my mother. Why is my mother's breasts bulging, my not? The girl of this period has begun to mark the breast as a female body and to harmonize this mark with her own gender. Boys at this stage are also often interested in their mother's breasts. In fact, mothers only need to naturally tell the child what they want to know. When the child understands the truth of the breast, they are no longer curious. But if the mother thinks it is still a little difficult to open, this book can help you! The same series of "Chicken Story" is suitable for boys who are curious about their bodies. Dad is better to accompany them!
"Why I don't have a chicken": boys and girls are different
I have always remembered a paragraph from the teacher Hu Ping, a child sex education expert I have read: In the face of the question “Why don’t I have a chicken?†asked by the girl, no matter what the answer is given to the child, the concept to be passed to the child is “ boys and girls have a small penis, small penis but they are not the same, the girl is flat, the boy is long. " Parents should not pass on to the concept of "the boy has a chicken, the girl does not". This concept will make the girl feel that her body is missing, resulting in a feeling of inferiority and self-confidence. Many questions in the details of the response, not only the problem itself. On some sensitive questions, my mother also needs to do her homework early.
Sharing of this issue: Hu Ping
Child sexual psychology development and sex education experts
representative work:
"Kissing Children Talking about Sex", "Growth and Sex" (Upper and Lower)
This issue is excerpted from the work of Hu Ping’s teacher, "A Good Understanding of Nursery Rhymes"
Hu Ping
Electric Fence,Electric Fence System,Electric Perimeter Fence,High Voltage Electric Security Fence
HEBEI DOUDOU METAL FENCE PRODUCTS CO.,LTD. , https://www.security-fencing.com